Does a Baby Make Things Right?
by Josie Brown
There is no such thing as an ugly baby.
Granted, some infants are cuter than others. But let's face it: every one of us have gone through an "awkward" phase.
Some of us do so earlier than others.
No matter how cranky or colicy, babies are all the more beautiful to Katie Johnson, the heroine of my latest novel, THE BABY PLANNER, because she wants one so badly. Unfortunately her husband, Alex, has many excuses as to why they shouldn't have one. Besides the fact that he thinks they can't afford one until his next bonus check, he is also upset that his first wife has moved out of the country and won't allow him to share visitation rights with his ten-year-old son.
Katie gets her baby fix by channeling her energies into a new business: baby planning, in which she helps new moms weed through all their pre-and post-natal childcare fears, as well as all the baby gear that they are told they should have at their fingertips.
Throughout the book, Katie comes to sympathize with her clients: not just because they feel overwhelmed with too much information and too little time, but because they want their babies as desperately as she does--and, like her, not necessarily for all the right reasons.
At least one of the characters in the books feels that a baby will save her marriage. Another is concerned about the negative effect it will have on her relationship.
In truth, the issues that come between a woman and a man are sometimes greater than the joy they may share by having a child.
Also, if one person in a relationship wants a child but the other doesn't, the issue can in fact pull a marriage apart.
What are your thoughts on this? Feel free to comment below. All who do will be entered in a giveaway for a signed copy of THE BABY PLANNER.
Also feel free to read and excerpt of the book here. After doing so, enter my contest for the prize of a $100 gift card to your favorite bookstore.
I hope to meet you on one of my book tour stops,
Josie's latest novel is THE BABY PLANNER (Simon & Schuster; in bookstores April 5, 2011)
Don't forget to check back here for a special BABY SHOWER to celebrate the release!
The giveaway is from the author, this one is limited to the US and she is picking the winner!
The giveaway is from the author, this one is limited to the US and she is picking the winner!
I think it has to be a mutual decision. Kids are so much work. I don't think it would be fair to make that decision alone.
ReplyDeletelizzi0915 at aol dot com
A baby doesn't solve problems in a bad marriage. The decision has to be mutual.
ReplyDeletelkish77123 at gmail dot com
having a baby in a bad marriage will only make things worse.
ReplyDeleteI sure agree that both parties need to agree on starting a family. Or adding a second baby to the mix, which in some cases can be as polarizing as deciding to start a family at all.
ReplyDeleteJHolden955(at)gmail(dot)com
I can't wait to read this one! It looks great!!! Men seem to never want kids; it's always boys and their toys...
ReplyDeletehnwhitlock2000atgmaildotcom
Having children is a decision for both parents but I think this should be discussed to some extint before marriage.
ReplyDeletemamabunny13 at gmail dot com
I don't think that having a baby can fix a marriage, either a marriage is going to make it or it's not. Although I can relate to Katie's character wanting a baby. I wanted a baby very badly, but thought I couldn't have children after trying for 9 years. So I finally gave up, and thought I wasn't meant to have children. Two months later I found out I was going to have a baby. We call her our miracle baby, because we only had the one. Love to read this book.
ReplyDeleteayancey(at)dishmail(dot)net
I can understand having and wanting a baby so badly, even though there are a lot of wrong reasons for it - but I understand those instincts
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ReplyDeletelizzi0915 at aol dot com
I think making the choice to have a child has to be a mutual decision. If you mess up raising your children, I don't think whatever else you do well will matter.
ReplyDeletefelecia@twinoaksfl.org
Babies deserve parents who want them!! It really should be discussed before the wedding.
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jryder416 at yahoo dot com
I think the issue of starting a family really MUST be discussed before marriage. But sometimes people change their minds. If that is the case, then I think the couple needs to part ways otherwise there will always be resentment. A child deserves caregivers that really want him/her.
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Not really, sometimes it just makes things worse bc a relationship is hard and a baby changes things, hopefully for the best, bc babies are wonderful!! Bt if a relationship is broken, then having one more tie, just makes it too tight and it might burst. A baby is just one of the most joys one can have and a retionship should stand on its own- baby or not.
ReplyDeleteAs anyone who has had children knows, they make a big difference in a marriage. Your time for yourself and as a couple is no longer your own. Those who think a child will save a marriage or bring a couple closer together had better think again. It must be a decision made by both of you and shouldn't be taken lightly. The time and stress of children will test your relationship. At the same time, if you have a strong relationship, the joys and rewards of having children can not be matched.
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Having kids is a big deal. Just having kids stresses a marriage. I can't imagine what it would be like if one of the parents felt resentful about the child.
ReplyDeletetiredwkids at live dot com
I firmly believe when ever a person seeks having a baby to try to solve some thing it never turns out the way you wish. A baby should be some thing the couple wants mutually. A happiness I think that should be shared by both not though of a as a fixer upper. Some times it comes as a total surprise and I don't know it seems almost like it was meant to be not some thing planned. any way sounds like a great book
ReplyDeleteas always ♥, Carol
caroespejel15(at)yahoo(dot)com
Ideally, whether to have children should be discussed and agreed upon before a couple marries. As others have said, a baby will not solve any problems in a marriage and could create new problems.
ReplyDeletedlodden at frontiernet dot net
Having a baby doesn`t solve problems.
ReplyDeleteWould love to read this, sounds interesting.
ctymice at gmail dot com
As one half of a young married couple trying to decide when to start our family, this book sounds exactly like what I should be reading! Cute!
ReplyDeleteReadHandedLibrarian at gmail dot com
Having a baby won't save a doomed marriage. It'll just make things more difficult. That's not fair for a child to be brought into a bad situation.
ReplyDeletenancyecdavis AT bellsouth DOT net
I think both partners need to want a child --- and both need to want to take on the many responsibilities of having a child ---
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